Thousands of marriages across Delaware and the United States end in divorce every year. And while a divorce is an emotionally wrought process for anybody who goes through it, it can be very difficult for children. If you are going through a divorce with kids, it makes an already emotionally-taxing time even harder. However, there are many things you can do to help smooth the process for your children. According to Kids’ Health, one of the most important things you can do is ensure that you keep the home as positive as possible.

Essentially, you want to make sure that any negativity toward your soon-to-be ex-spouse is confided in other sources. It is natural to have negative feelings during this process, but you have to remember that your ex-spouse is your child’s other parent. It is imperative to make sure neither you nor your ex-spouse put your kids in the middle. Adults do need a lot of support when they go through a divorce, as well, but they should seek that support from sources other than their children. Even if your children are older, be honest with them about the situation but find another source to vent if necessary.

If at all possible, you will also want to ensure that both parents play active roles in the lives of the children. Joint parenting is always preferable if it is feasible. It is also a good idea to keep the children in their current living environment in the same school if at all possible. If a move is absolutely necessary, make sure that it is well planned and explained to the children in advance in age appropriate manner.